Having Your First Gay Sex
Your first sexual experience is always a moment of heightened excitement. For many, it also serves as a rite of passage into a new sexual relationship or into the realm of queerness.
However, for LGB+ individuals, navigating their first same-sex/gender sexual experiences is often a complex process. This study seeks to explore how participants navigate their early sexual relationships with same-sex/gender partners, whilst identifying potential barriers to safe and satisfying first same-sex/gender sex.
1. Don’t be afraid to ask
If you are curious about gay sex, it is not too early to ask questions. According to scientific research, 7-8% of men who identify as heterosexual have had their first gay sex at some point in their lives.
While it is important to understand your own sexuality, it is also important to consider the feelings of other people in your life. When you are not aware of what others think of your sexuality, it can be difficult to be comfortable in your own skin.
You can ask a variety of questions that help you make an informed decision about whether or not to pursue gay sex. For example, you can ask about your first sex experience, your fears about it, and your expectations for the future.
You can also ask about safe sex. This involves avoiding the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) by getting regular testing and practicing safer practices like using condoms and PrEP.
2. You don’t always have to have sex in a gay sauna
While the idea of sex in a gay sauna may seem like it should be something you do only with someone you’ve met there, that’s not always the case. It’s also important to remember that many guys go to a sauna for other reasons, too – such as socialization or workouts – so it can be easy to ignore the sex aspect of your visit if you aren’t interested.
There are a few places in a gay sauna where you can have sex without being seen by others, including a dark room. While this can be a bit risky, it is worth a try for those who like to have sex anonymously.
The gay sauna may not be a risky environment for HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases, and it may be conducive to feelings of belongingness and identity authenticity among its users (Davenport, 2015; Pollack, Woods, Blair, & Binson, 2014). However, it is important to remember that there are risks associated with using alcohol in a gay sauna.
3. You don’t have to be bottom in a same-sex fumble
It’s no secret that top and bottom are hot gay sex rivals, but you don’t have to be the big cheese to have fun. The key is to remember that sexuality is a personal experience, so don’t be afraid to experiment and take risks. The best part is that you will probably have a lot of fun and learn about yourself along the way.
A fumble in the right place at the right time will be a rewarding and memorable experience. For one, it’s an opportunity to get naked with your sexiest gal pal. It also means you’ll be able to test out all of the most racy libido-inducing lingerie on your partner in a safe and supportive environment. It may be the most exhilarating thing you’ve ever done, and it will leave you giddy with excitement for the rest of your life.
4. You don’t have to be anal
Having your first gay sex can be exciting and overwhelming. You might be nervous about the potential for pain or discomfort, but you shouldn’t be afraid to try new things.
The best way to get started is with simple, easy-to-learn positions that will help you enjoy your first gay sex as much as possible. These are the 69 and the gay missionary position.
As a top, try sucking his cock with your mouth while you move down toward his balls and then into his butthole. It’s a great way to start sexual intercourse while also being a safe and comfortable position for both of you.
As a bottom, wriggle his asshole in this position to increase your comfort. Lift his asshole up a bit, too, so you can reach down into his cheeks with your tongue. Use lube and condoms if you want to go further with penetrative sex.