Enjoying Phone Sex JOI

By Maria Padara
Posted December 17, 2022
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You can jerk off all day or rub your clit until it falls off, but you don’t know how amazing masturbation can feel until you’ve tried JOI. JOI, or jerk off instructions, give the control to your partner while also keeping the action in your own hands, as it were. It allows you to be more direct and commanding when you take charge of your partner’s pleasure, only allowing them to cum when you say so.

Phone sex chatlines were made for JOI and initiating this type of phone sex does not have to involve a formal invitation. It can be as simple as asking your partner to tell you what to do. Tell them that you want them to wait for permission before they finish, or that you want them to control when you blow. Letting your partner know what you want or that you want to be dominated can be incredibly hot for all parties involved!

When participating in JOI phone sex, don’t forget that your partner can’t see you, so you still need to communicate! When they tell you what to do, make sure you describe how you’re following the instruction or what the sensation feels like to you. If you feel like you’re going to orgasm, let them know so they have a chance to prolong the pleasure with a bit of edging, or they allow you permission to finish.

Don’t be completely one sided with the instructions. You can ask what they are doing while you are following their instructions or tell them what you want them to do while they “watch” you or listen to you. Ask them to describe what they like most about what you’re doing or if it makes them hornier knowing that you’re doing what you’re told. Acknowledging their control is extremely erotic and the attention that you provide will make them feel more engaged in the fun and the action!

When providing the instructions, don’t forget to change things up occasionally. This can be anything from changing the speed, whether you tell them to slow down or speed up, change the position of their hand or toy, or even move to a different location or position in the room. Telling someone to go from sitting in their chair to watching themselves in the bathroom mirror may make the interaction more intense, since they will have visual stimulation of you effect on their body.

Jerk off instructions have become increasingly popular among chatlines and webcams all over the world, and for good reason. They provide partners with a sense of control and dominance over each other, even from miles apart. It’s an incredibly sexy alternative to paying a dominatrix, and the experience is worth trying with your favorite partners during your next phone chat!