Getting Tied Up on the Phone: Long Distance BDSM

With the rising popularity of BDSM, more and more couples are trying it in the bedroom, and there is a rise in popularity of chatline callers trying it at home. While getting tied up by your partner is extremely sexy and fun in person, it can get a little more complicated when you’re home alone and trying to get those handcuffs and blindfold on during your call. But it can be done!

Before you call in, practice using things you like prior to your call so you know that it will work during the call. If you’re using rope, try some basic knots on yourself. If you like sensory play, like whips or feathers, try them on yourself first so you know the amount of force to use without hurting yourself, or what spots to avoid in order to avoid tickling yourself and losing your erotic momentum.

If there are any knots or locks required, ensure you can get out of them. Nothing is more embarrassing than having to ask for help when you’ve just cum and you can’t clean up because your hands are handcuffed to your ankles. Make sure you keep any keys close by, that knots are simple to untie, and that you have a backup plan if you need to cut some rope or fabric that gets stuck.

If you’re using stimulation items, like whips, practice making some noise with them. With lubricants, ensure you’ve tried it on your skin before, so you know it doesn’t cause irritation or burning, especially for warming lubes and lotions. If you’re using something that provides audible stimulation, like certain types of background music, make sure it’s loud enough for your partner to hear, but not so loud that you can’t hear each other.

Wear something that makes BDSM possible, so you aren’t wasting time changing or undressing. Think along the lines of strappy lingerie, fishnet shirts or tights, or just going completely nude to avoid pesky clothing getting in the way.

Make sure everything is clean before the call. Don’t wait until you’re on the phone to start washing your sex toys, butt plugs, ropes, and cuffs. All you’re doing is making your partner wait and killing the mood while they listen to you furiously scrub the crusty residue off from last week’s call. Nothing about that is sexy, so set yourself up for success by washing everything beforehand.

BDSM is completely possible during a sensual and erotic phone chat. Make use of what you have and make sure you’re prepared so you can avoid awkward or embarrassing situations and have fun getting dirty!