How to Make a Woman Squirt During Sex
Unlike some of the other things we see in porn and assume to be fake, squirting is actually pretty real. It happens when a woman’s urethral sponge and Skene’s glands get aroused.
But the truth is, it’s not for everyone. And that’s okay. It’s still fun and sexy to try it.
Penetrate the vagina with one or two (lubricated) fingers.
It’s possible to make a woman squirt during sex. It just takes some preparation and exploration.
Start by lubricating your fingers and preparing the area to be fingered. It’s best to do this in a private space where you and your partner can explore the erogenous zone without worrying about making a mess.
Insert your first finger into the vagina about two thirds of the way in. Move in and out to get a feel for the G-spot, which is located on the anterior wall of the vagina. It’s usually firm and feels different from the rest of the vulva.
Once you’re comfortable penetrating the vagina, use your other hand to locate the cervix. It’s typically lower in the back 2/3 of the vagina, but it can shift depending on your partner’s menstrual cycle. Once you’ve found it, be gentle and don’t pound on the area too hard. It can bruise easily and may cause pain.
Find the urethral sponge.
Women’s bodies do some amazing things, and squirting (or female ejaculation) is one of them. This is when fluids are released from the urethra during sexual arousal, and can vary from a dribble to a gush.
The urethra runs right above the vagina, and squirting is a result of stimulating what is known as the “G-spot.” It encompasses a large amount of nerves and, when stimulated, it can trigger orgasms.
The G-spot is easiest to locate when a woman is lying on her back. Someone can then insert one or two lubricated fingers into her vagina and use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. During this stimulation, it’s important to keep in mind that she may squirt and that it’s okay to let her explore. But you also don’t want to get so focused on making her squirt that she feels pressured or like an object instead of an empowered partner. This will likely make her feel uncomfortable and she may shut down the experience altogether.
Apply consistent pressure.
For some women, just applying consistent pressure to the inside of the vagina will be enough. In particular, the pelvic floor muscles (or pubococcygeal) are a crucial contributor to squirting and can be stimulated with a hand or fingers. Slightly bending or changing the amount of pressure can trigger the “wee-wee” immature shame that’s sometimes associated with squirting, so it’s important to keep your technique steady.
Unlike some erotic porn, squirting won’t work for everyone. Women who aren’t naturally squirty might have unconscious internal blocks around it that they need your love and care to unpack and overcome. If she feels like you’re judging her or treating her as an object that can be turned on and off, it won’t happen. Squirting should be a pleasurable experience that both of you are enjoying. Make sure the room is comfortable, and you’re both relaxed and in the right mood before proceeding. It’s also helpful to have a towel close by in case of fluid splashes.
Use the “come hither” motion.
It’s important to remember that a woman’s body is her own and that it’s her right to not want to squirt, if she chooses. Trying to force someone into it turns sex into a mission, which can be sexually unsatisfying for both parties.
The key to making a woman squirt may be getting her to relax and trust in you so that she surrenders her body and mind to pleasure. It’s also about stimulating the clitoris and G-spot, which are both highly sensitive.
A good place to start is by figuring out whether she’s a “natural squirter” or not. If not, then the best thing to do is to focus on what does feel good for her and communicate with her to figure out what makes her moan. Lastly, it’s important to have a clean environment ready so that if any wee-wee happens, it doesn’t dampen her experience. This might mean that she’ll need to have her nails trimmed, use extra lube, or be prepared to take a bath afterwards.