First Date Tips For Women
If you want to make your first date a success, there are some things you need to remember. For one, it’s important to be kind and fun. Most men also appreciate women with a sense of humor.
Finding common interests is a key step in any relationship. It will help you to bond with your date.
1. Be yourself
Being yourself on a first date can be nerve-wracking, but it’s important to show your true personality. Even if it means you make a sarcastic comment or trip up the stairs in front of your date, don’t hold back.
It’s also a good idea to get to know your date’s authentic self, so ask them questions about themselves. For example, asking them about their favorite hobbies or what kind of music they like can be a great conversation starter.
2. Don’t talk about your ex
While it’s normal for first date conversations to sometimes touch on exes, it should be kept short and sweet. And if your date constantly brings up their ex or badmouths them, it’s not a good sign.
Bringing up an ex is “a red flag that they are not over their former partner,” Cherlyn Chong, a relationship and breakup coach, tells Elite Daily. It’s also a sign that they’re not invested in you. A guy who is into you will be focused on you and won’t think of anyone else.
3. Don’t make the guy splurge
On a first date, it is better to stay away from super expensive restaurants or a dinner and a movie. This way, if you realise that you don’t click with your date, it is easy to extricate yourself.
Similarly, you should avoid talking about your previous relationships or exes. This can make you seem negative and unreliable in the long run. Aim for being light-hearted and fun.
4. Don’t be too mysterious
If you’re mysterious on a first date, it can scare off your date or leave them wondering where the connection is. It’s important to make the conversation a balance of mystery and information.
For example, it’s rude to stare at your phone constantly. This sends a message that whatever is on your screen is more important than your date. Don’t overdo it though. Just enough mystery to entice him back for another date.
5. Don’t be too aggressive
It may feel tempting to fire questions at your date to learn more about them, but this could backfire. Instead, be selective with what you ask and let the conversation naturally flow.
Avoid asking invasive questions like what they think of their ex, politics or religion. This type of talk is a huge red flag and will give the impression that you’re more interested in them than they are in you.
6. Be the proof of chivalry
A simple act of chivalry can go a long way. It shows that you respect her and that you care about your date.
For example, grabbing her coat for her or offering to hold it when she walks out of the car is a great show of chivalry.
You also can help her feel prepared by calling ahead to let her know what you’re planning on doing. This will also give her a chance to plan her outfit, forethought being another key first date rule.
7. Don’t be too rigid
If you have too many expectations for your first date, you may be disappointed if it doesn’t go well. Keeping your expectations reasonable also helps you to relax and be more present with your date.
Leaning in to your date, making eye contact and smiling are all great body language signals that you’re engaged in the conversation. Avoid crossing your arms, playing with your hair or looking around the room.
Don’t machine-gun him with questions about his ex, politics or religion. Save those for later dates when you’ll have more time to evaluate his core values.
8. Don’t be too serious
Being overly serious on a first date is a huge turn-off for many guys. Men want to see your sense of humor and confidence in yourself.
If your first date didn’t go as well as you thought it would, be honest with him on the second date about why that is. Being honest is always the best policy and will save you from backpedaling later on. It’s also a sign of respect. After all, honesty is the foundation of any healthy relationship.