Dating a Lesbian – How to Master the Art of Seduction
If you’re thinking about flirting with a lesbian, you’ll find it helps to keep things casual at first. Lesbians often have a hard time asking for what they want or feel that they are being aggressive when they do.
Also, they may not have much experience with women. So start with the basics: compliments and small talk.
1. Make her laugh.
It’s no secret that many lesbians fall in love with their best friends. This is a popular joke in the LGBT community, but it’s not necessarily a bad thing. It can actually be very romantic if the two girls are comfortable with it and have their trust established.
Laughter is one of the best ways to make a woman feel attractive and sexy. It also breaks the ice and makes it easier to talk to someone new. Try a funny joke or compliment her on something that she finds cute or beautiful.
Another way to show her that you’re interested is to do an Act of Service for her. This could be anything from picking up a dropped item to buying her a drink.
2. Talk about her ex.
Talking about her ex is a natural part of getting to know someone, and it can be a great way to see what kind of person she is. But it’s important to limit how much you ask about her past relationships. Too much detail can make her feel like you’re not over her and that you’re using her as a benchmark for your own relationship.
If you want to get into it, try asking her about specific memories and avoiding nitty-gritty details such as where they hung out, what she did with him, and especially sexual details. Those are best reserved for a later, more intimate conversation.
3. Ask her for advice.
When you’ve got a crush on your lesbian friend, it can be hard to know what to do. If she’s not gay, she may not pick up on your cues that you like her romantically — and if you tell her straight away, she might get scared off.
Instead, try to subtly hint at your interest in her. Drop in questions about her past relationships that don’t have sexual connotations, or talk about something else that she’s passionate about.
Be careful not to turn this into a conversation about dating, though – it could cause tension and make her feel embarrassed. It’s best to keep the conversation light and fun. This will also help ensure that she doesn’t feel pressured to reciprocate your feelings or think of you in a sexual way.
4. Ask her out.
If you want to date a lesbian, you’ll need to master the art of seduction. Seducing women is much easier in person than online, and it’s always better to start dating someone in a real life setting.
Make your first date fun by bringing her some interesting food and wine or cocktails. Then talk about your interests, or a hobby you both share.
You can also try flirting with her to show interest in her. Women typically respond well to being complimented, so drop some lines about her eyes, her outfit, or something she told you that she finds cool. But don’t overdo it, or she may think you are only interested in her as a friend.
5. Make her jealous.
Jealousy is one of the most powerful tools in your relationship arsenal, but it’s also a dangerous tool. Don’t get too carried away with it—it’s not fair to ruin your queer friend’s chance of dating a fully-realized lesbian because she wanted to experiment with a girl at a gay bar once.
If she always sits next to you at bars, or makes sure she’s within eye- and ear-shot when you’re talking to another girl, she may be interested in you. Even if she’s not, these little social maneuvers can make you feel closer to her.
Of course, these subtle moves are easier when she knows you a bit already. So, banter with her and start to get a feel for how she reacts before you begin plotting your jealousy scheme.